A type of unity ceremony, the wedding sand ceremony expresses the coming together of two people or two families into one new family. It is a very simple idea that can be incredibly powerful. Typically, each person has different colored sand and takes turns pouring it into one clear vessel, forming a layered effect. Sometimes just the couple participates, and sometimes the couple's children or parents join in with their own colored sand, adding to the layers of colors, and expressing the harmony of the entire family. The advantage of the sand ceremony is that there is a lasting memento to display in your home. Sand is also a better choice for an outdoor wedding since wind is less of a concern than it is with a candle.
This is a great ceremony for a blended family with children . Each family member has an amount of their favorite candy. Each person pours their candy into a larger glass jar. I talk about the sweetness of sharing life together, the work that goes into a being a family, and how each member brings something unique, sweet, and special to the new family.
This ceremony is especially meaningful as it is used to thank the bride and groom's moms, bonus mothers, or any other special woman in their lives for their love, wisdom, and help. I can either keep two flowers with me or the bride and groom can pull them from the bridal bouquet. These special women can be called forward during the wedding ceremony or remain seated, handed a flower, and read a special tribute written by the honorer.